Womens Erotica: Wrong But So Right
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So obviously porn turns you on, and has all those effects on your body. But it has a strange effect on how your brain views your partner.
According to Dr. Norman Doidge, it is quite common for patients who watched significant amounts of porn to report that, "far from getting more turned on by the idea of sex with his partner , he was less attracted to her". Apparently this is called the " Coolidge Effect, or a tendency toward novelty-seeking behavior" , according to GQ.
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So if you find that porn is having a negative impact on your sex life, you might want to take a step back and reset, at least for a little while. Christian Laier University of Duisburg-Essen in Germany published an article in the Journal Of Sex Research which found that men had a more difficult time recalling and forming memories when viewing sexual imagery — and that the difficulty increased when they were more turned on.
Laier said they found "sexual arousal interferes with working memory, an important facet of executive functioning ", but that more research needs to be done on the subject. According to the Daily Mail, German researchers found that "the striatum area of the brain, linked with the motivation and reward response, shrank in size the more porn a person viewed.
Intense, right? But none of this is mean to freak you out.
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What porn does is probably what you'd expect, and it's only in extreme cases that you should be concerned — just like you should be about an extreme dependency on anything. If you're not sure if your habits are normal or healthy for you, talk to your doctor.
Erotic romance writer Lily Harlem says these prestigious authors are over-thinking their sex scenes. Harlem has written 30 novels, all of which are driven by themes of sexual desire. Bad Sex Awards: interactive quiz. Writing about sex: The last thing you'd expect from this mum of five.
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And they should focus on reality, rather than trying to obscure facts in metaphor. The cover of Harlem's latest book. Keep it real and write a fresh description — to do that you need a vivid location and characters.
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Lily Harlem is a pen name, and the author says that keeping her identity secret helps to keep her writing honest. We have Kalidasa comparing Dushyanta with Kama Dev the lord of sexual desire in Abhigyan Shakuntalam and Radha educating her niece Ila in the art of seduction in Radhika Santawanam which was banned in colonial India.
More than that, we have the Kamasutra.
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We must also recognise that with the technological advancement of our age, we find erotica in various forms on various platforms like Instagram. We have water paints and doodles to express desire or the desirable and captions that ignite our passions. We are also acquainted with the comic strips of Savita Bhabhi, which for a brief period faced legal charges but now are freely available on the internet. These different forms not only show advancement in the judged genre but also cater to a wide audience with different interests.
Keeping this in mind, it is safe to say that the genre of erotica is a space that allows its writers and readers to express their darkest, immoral, socially acceptable as well as unacceptable desires and quench rather than suppress them. Erotica not only provides entertainment for a brief period of time but also helps add a little flavour to our own life, and maybe help us change our perspective of erotic desire, or question it.
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The New York Times, Tulika Parikh is a post graduate in English Literature from St. Her literary interest lies in the genres of romance, erotica, paranormal and adolescent literature and mythology. Categories Erotica and Sexuality Voices.